Indecisiveness, impulsiveness and impatience each affect people in negative ways.
Does thinking about what to wear to a party put you into a panic? Are you horrified when deciding whether to apply for your dream job? This is indecisiveness.
Even people with impeccable decision-making skills can become indecisive. The more you stand to lose, the harder it is to decide. Constantly feeling stressed and indecisive is like being stuck in mud. You feel unproductive and vulnerable.
Why is making decisions so hard?
Fear of making the wrong decision is one of the reasons many people delay when faced with a choice. You may be afraid of failure or unfair judgment by others. You may be concerned about how your decision will affect your family’s life.
Impulsivity is the tendency to act without thinking.
This kind of behaviour is common, especially in children or teenagers. It’s typical for them to act impulsively because their brains are still developing.
When being impulsive becomes a problem, it’s human nature to sometimes say or do something we might regret. Some people are more prone to impulsive behaviour than others.
· They might act aggressively toward others.
· They feel easily agitated and angry.
· They are easily distracted.
Impulsive behaviour can be a symptom of several conditions, including attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Impulsive people tend to interrupt others talking, not being able to wait their turn. Bipolar disorder affects your mood, energy level and ability to do day-to-day activities. Impulsiveness can show up in behaviours such as extreme spending habits or substance abuse.
Here are some examples of impulsive behaviour that can affect your life.
· Quitting your job suddenly.
· Buying things you don’t need.
· Having emotional outbursts.
· Engaging in risky behaviour.
· Binge eating or drinking.
Impulsive people tend to get easily upset and not be able to predict the consequences of their actions.
Do life’s small and large irritations send you into uncontrollable rage? Daily frustrations are part of life and they are not going away. So maybe it’s time to develop more patience, rather than deal with impatience.
If you feel like you’re turning into an impatient person, you probably are. Social changes and technological advances have set us up to expect immediate gratification.
When we want to read a particular book, listen to a certain song, or watch a popular TV show, those things are only a few clicks away.
“Our expectations go up and then our level of patience goes down,” says Dr. Bea, a clinical psychologist. “If we’re going to grow patience, it’s going to come from doing slightly uncomfortable things.”
Be in the present moment, without thinking. Sit quietly and notice your breathing. Many of us don’t practice proper breathing and some of us forget to breathe.
Just be aware that you’re not alone. All of us have to deal with some difficulties in life. Impatience brings stress that can negatively affect your mood and life.
“Two things define you: your patience when you have nothing and your attitude when you have everything.” ~ George Bernard Shaw.
Life coach Ranka Burzan owns a professional organizing company based in the qathet region and has written several books on reducing clutter and becoming more organized. For information, go to solutionsorganizing.com.