Many of us live a life of constant hardship, believing we can’t do any better, that we are destined to die poor and unhappy.
I was one of the people who believed being born in a disadvantaged family was my obstacle to achieve success and happiness. After studying the work of people who have a purposeful life despite what situation they are in, I made a decision to improve the quality of my life.
What I discovered in my constant search for happiness is that we can create a life we desire. As Tony Robbins says: “It’s our decisions, not our conditions, that ultimately shape the quality of our lives.”
You may feel overwhelmed or discouraged, but you can make the decision to take the first step toward changing your life.
When you feel discouraged
There will be times for all of us to feel overwhelmed and ready to give up; that is the best time to find the reason you feel that way. Life is full of triggering events that negatively contribute to our lives.
It could be the loss of loved ones, feeling undeserved of a good life, or believing you can’t change. Losing a job or higher education opportunity can make you feel inadequate and hopeless. Ending a relationship can leave a huge void in your life.
Unfortunate life experiences can make us feel like we’re not good enough. When we have a feeling of inadequacy, many of us start comparing ourselves to others who appear confident and happy.
Reorganize your mind
Are you living the life you always wanted, or have you settled into the current situation? If you’ve hit a stage of feeling stuck and frustrated in life or know you could do better, it’s not too late.
You can reset your mind to give you the motivation and strength it takes to achieve a life that gives you purpose and fulfillment.
Most of us have an unclear vision of what we think we want or deserve. When life turns away from a path we have quietly set for it, we often become frustrated and upset.
“Why is this happening to me?” This dissatisfaction can be a powerful incentive to make the needed change.
Manage your thoughts
According to scientists, our mind can retain over two thousand thoughts in one hour. Some of them are positive and helpful, many of them are negative and destructive. As a result, our thoughts and useless beliefs can work against us, sabotaging our happiness and success.
Instead of taking action to achieve lasting change, we go back to our comfort zone where we think we belong. Therefore, everything stays the same in our life. There is no growth or improvement in our homes, careers, finances, health or relationships.
Your subconscious mind can be very helpful when you are determined and committed to change your situation. If you become indecisive, your mind will take over keeping you in the place you don’t want to be.
It’s not just how smart we are that counts, it’s what we are willing to do. And there’s no better time to take back control of your mind and set your sights on something better right now.
The first step to a positive change in your life is to get complete clarity on what it is you want. Learn how to do less thinking and add more focus and action.
I wish you the best of luck growing into the person you were meant to be.
Ranka Burzan owns a professional organizing company based in Powell River and has written several books on reducing clutter and becoming more organized. For information, go to solutionsorganizing.com.